Growing up is a difficult time for a youngster, the primary attention of both parents and schools is on ensuring that he excels in science, math, and language, as well as any other activities that are part of the curriculum. However, success in school isn’t everything in life. Emotional intelligence in early childhood is crucial in shaping them into the people they will become as adults. Your child’s indications of understanding your rage when he doesn’t do well, or his friend’s grief over the loss of his pet, are all indicators of a high develop emotional intelligence quotient that you should be aware of.
The capacity to understand and manage one’s own and others’ emotions is known as emotional intelligence. It entails being able to effectively recognise, comprehend, and respond to emotions. People with strong emotional intelligence are skilled at seeing how others’ emotions impact them and deciphering the motives behind their behaviours. In other words, EI can affect other people’s emotions.
Do you want to bring up a child that is emotionally aware but doesn’t know where to start? Begin with the following 10 steps.
1. Accept our children’s feelings and reactions to their feelings
‘I can imagine how aggravating that was.’ ‘Wow, you’re demonstrating how enraged you are.’ ‘That’s fantastic; I can see you’re ecstatic.’ ‘It may be difficult when friends disappoint you.’ ‘You appear to be in a bad mood.’ Something must have occurred.
2. Assist them in putting words to their feelings
‘You sound unhappy,’ ‘you seem depressed,’ ‘I’m thinking you’re upset about that.’ ‘You appear to be a little concerned.’ I’m sure you’re feeling… It must have hurt.
3. Encourage youngsters to express their emotions
‘Hey, you seem irritated about that.’ ‘Would you like to talk about it?’ What was your reaction to that?
4. Assist them in recognising signs of how other people are feeling
‘How do you suppose he felt after that?’ ‘Do you have any idea what was going on with her?’ ‘Can you imagine how you’d feel if it occurred to you?’
5. Teach youngsters to recognise when their tension is rising and what causes them stress
‘Is this causing you any anxiety?’ ‘It appears like you have a lot on your plate right now — are you feeling tense?’ ‘I can tell you’re furious because you’re clenching your jaw like that.’
6. Train them on how to relax and de-stress
‘Do you think some time to relax would be beneficial?’ ‘Would it be beneficial if you took a few deep breaths?’ “Could you tell yourself, ‘I can keep cool,’ ‘Everyone makes errors,’ or ‘It was an accident when it happens again?” ‘Shall we meet later, once you’ve had a chance to calm off, and talk about it?’
7. Teach youngsters other methods to communicate their dissatisfaction
‘How could you express how you feel with words instead of hitting?’ ‘Can you think of another method to express your displeasure with him?’ ‘I despise being blamed.’ You’ll have to tell me something else if you want something.’ ‘Could you tell your friend how you felt?’ ‘How do you believe you’ll reach the next time you’re in this situation?’
8. Discover what drives people to give it their all
‘What do you think you could say to yourself at the start of the day to make you feel more upbeat?’ ‘When things become tough, you simply keep trying,’ says the author. ‘I see that once you set a goal for yourself, you don’t give up until you achieve it.’ ‘You said you’d do it, and you delivered.’ ‘I appreciate how you’ve organised everything you’ll need.
9. Remark on our children’s self-control
‘You did a fantastic job with yourself right now.’ ‘I like how cool you remained when he raised his voice – it took a lot of self-control.’ ‘I was amazed by how you utilised your words while keeping your hands to yourselves!’ ‘You kept your cool while solving the puzzle, even when you couldn’t find the appropriate piece — you simply kept trying- That was outstanding.’
10. Demonstrate how to be cool and in control when we are upset
‘It’s been a long day at work; can we talk about it later when I’ve had a chance to relax?’ ‘I don’t like the way you’re speaking, and I’m not willing to sit here and listen to statements like that.’ ‘Hey, I have something I’d want to discuss; is this a good time to do so?’ ‘I can feel myself becoming enraged; perhaps we should go home.’
Being parents, we’re always looking for new methods to strengthen our empathy muscles and help our kids develop emotional intelligence. Remember that everyone has a different starting place and learns at their speed, so don’t put too much pressure on anyone, including yourself, to “understand it” right immediately.