Kids period talk, how to talk to your children about period. Periods are an integral, inevitable yet most stigmatised part of a woman’s life. It has been often denounced and a traumatised thing in our society. Children irrespective of their gender must be given awareness about menstruation and be taught about menstrual hygiene. We should make them realise that first period is as normal as getting first teeth, taking first steps, trying first words or any other phase of life.
There is nothing to be afraid or stigmatise. Girls do not get impure or untouchable when they are having their period. Periods is a sign that your body is healthy to create, nurture and incubate life inside. There is nothing more pure and heavenly as that. So be proud of your periods. Start respecting menstruating women rather than marginalising them.
Now is the time to talk about periods
From a very young age, start talking to them about menstruation, give them books to get a better understanding, give awareness about the use of sanitary pads and the need for personal and menstrual hygiene. Talking about menstruation is better made in your family round rather than in private. In that way they start to conceive the idea that menstruation is “NORMAL”. Don’t be reluctant to talk about periods to your son.
Giving them proper awareness and making them realise that periods is just like growing facial hair in guys. One of the best things you can make your son do is to ask them get sanitary pads for you. In that way they will understand there is nothing wrong to buy pads or tampons for their friends or sister. Teach them to react against the period myths.
Don’t be scared, rather be proud of menstruation
I had an experience where at the age of 6 I saw my mom using a sanitary pad. I had no clue what it is used for. So I enquired about it to her. She was quite surprised at first. But on the same day after dinner, she sat with me, took out a sanitary pad and started to explain about it. To be perfectly honest, I was quite shocked and scared to hear about blood coming from my vagina. Then my dad was the one who shook off the trauma from me.
He told me “Menstruation should not make you feel weak. It is proof that a life could grow inside you. That is the strongest feeling a human can experience. So be proud that you are a women”. That give me an instant confidence. With pride and sheer happiness, I said to myself “I am fortunate and thankful to be a women”. I can be someone like my mom.
Steps to start fighting the stigma from home
1.Give awareness and courage to your daughter about periods from a young age.Don’t wait till she has her first period.
2.Talk openly to your son and discuss it in family rounds so that your children realise there is nothing awkward about menstruation.
3.When they get pimples and acne don’t tease or pass unwanted comments, tell them it is normal.
4.Enquire about their experience every month for a few years. This ensures that they are maintaining hygiene and they are getting their period regularly
5.If they face any issues like abnormal bleeding or meagre flow, consult a gynecologist.
6.Do not treat them indifferently in their puberty.
7.Give them books or show them videos on menstruation to get a better idea of the concept.
8.Teach them about proper disposal of sanitary pads or tampons and proper sterilising of tampons. Make them do the disposal themselves.
9.Comfort them when they have period cramps and menstrual mood swings. Teach them hacks to tackle it.
10.Ensure iron rich diet for them when in periods. Incorporate more leafy veggies and less oil during periods.