Now a days treasured hearts are rare to find. Research says that an average individual meets about 10000 people in their lifetime. But most of us treasure only a countable number of people in our hearts. Among them some grow with you, some grow apart from you, while some others allow you to grow, sacrificing their own growth. We meet some who instantly shares a bond with us. It appears that we are made in the same mould. Even the first conversation could last long and connected.
There are some who are difficult to sync in at first but eventually when we get to know each other bonding slowly strengthens and we start to grow in each other. But there are some others who no matter how hard we try will still remain close knit strangers. We pretend to be close for a certain part of the life but with time the bond weakens. But how would we know if a person truly treasures you? How can we foresee if they are going to stay with us eternally? Let us try and find out.
First let us find out why we lost certain people who we thought would stay with us forever. We can disseminate the situation and broadly categorise it into three reasons. First reason is that, you made a mistake or said something that caused an excruciating wound in the other person. When you are guilty about your mistake, you can always go back and apologise. You may or may not be welcomed by the other person. After all you have to give space for their decision. Second is the vice versa of the first.
The other person is guilty of the problem or gap. In such cases, if they are regretful and you want them back, you can forgive them and give them another chance. But there is a third situation where neither of you did something but unfortunately a gap fills between you. This could be because when you grow out of your space,you may have grown away from them. Undeliberately, with time you start losing them.
At some point when you finally realise you lost that person, it might be so late. You don’t know how to gain them back.You can neither apologise nor forgive. That is the toughest, most painful separation.Sometimes all you need is a good chat with that person wherein you recollect the happy moments you had together. Sometimes travelling together might help. But sometimes nothing works because you have grown in opposite directions and no longer have that bond you had.
Now comes the real question, how would we know if someone values us? As mentioned before we treasure some people in the deepest chambers of our heart. Some people treasure us. But how can we discern that. Obviously we can dig deep into their heart, can we? So here is the solution. There are certain people who no matter how far we go, how sporadic we meet, how irregular we talk, they always wait for you patiently.
They are happy for your growth and encourage you to grow more. They may be known under different names parents, grandparents, friends, teachers or relatives. Indeed they are always ready to start a conversation,always ready to listen, always patient to find solutions to your problems, always stand by you no matter what the situation is. I believe those are the real soul mates. This word is usually associated with a romantic relationship. But not necessarily right? Anyone who can put you above themself is a soul mate.
So yes you can have multiple soul mates. And they are the people who value you the most. They make your worst day a better day and good day the best day.Some of them we meet at the best phase of our life while others we meet at the worst phase of your life.The best are those who have your back all through the ups and downs of your life. If you can think of at least one such individual then consider yourself lucky. You don’t have to be in the memory of everybody you meet, rather you have to be in the heart of some people you meet.